In Episode 83, I shared with you that I got out of my comfort zone of introverted aloneness to attend a conference, and in this episode I want to dive a little deeper into what it can look like to get out of your comfort zone not only in your business but also personally and how those things can blend together to work to your advantage.
5. CONNECT WITH YOUR PEOPLE THROUGH STORIES
It’s not enough to just give away information, you have to share who YOU are. That’s the only thing that’s going to set you apart from the other blogger that blogs about the same things you blog about. Your experiences will connect you with others who have had similar experiences.
Jenna Kutcher does this by sharing body-positive photos of herself and talking about mac and cheese and her dogs. Amy Porterfield has started sharing deeper, personal things like how she’s ashamed of her weight and that’s why she doesn’t like to be on video.
Guess what? I listened to enough marketing podcasts that I loved, and I had no intention of adding Amy Porterfield or Jenna Kutcher’s podcasts to my library. I mean, who has time for more podcasts.
Until… They both talked about something on social media that I struggle with. Something that I know holds me back – how I’m ashamed of my body and how it looks.
And that humanized both of these majorly successful women for me. It showed me that I don’t have to be that perfect version of myself that I have in my mind to be successful, I can just be me.
And that made me subscribe to their podcasts and ultimately turned me into a paying customer of both them.
What this means for you:
It’s easier than ever to stand out in a crowded online world when you share your story.The reason why you started your business is very different than the reason someone else started the same business. Where does your passion come from? Tell people about it!
You don’t have to pretend to be an expert or have it all together. People respect you more if you’re real. So be real.
6. VIDEO IS STILL THE FASTEST WAY TO BUILD TRUST ONLINE
There’s nothing quite like seeing someone’s face, looking into their eyes and hearing their voice for you to decide if you like them. Right now, only 35% of people are using video to connect with their audiences – and just like the blogging fundamentals, most people just won’t do it.
What this means for you:
You have an opportunity to stand out and actually make this thing into a profitable business if you just start doing what most people won’t do – which is put themselves out there on video – whether it’s live or not.
Like Jenna Kutcher said, “Be real, not retouched.”
Think about this:
Do you expect your ideal clients to look a certain way? Do you expect them to always have makeup on with the perfect outfit and hair? Do you expect that they should look 20 years younger than they are? Do you expect them to never stumble over their words or be nervous?
No? Then you don’t have to be perfect for them either. They just want to see you for who you are and get to know you. Start making videos.
Listen, I know. It’s way easier for guys to just pick up their phone and go live. I look like a totally different person when I wake up without makeup on (okay, let’s be honest, yesterday’s makeup on), and that’s just not how I want to be seen online.
7. GET OUT OF YOUR COMFORT ZONE
If you don’t know who Jenna Kutcher is, check out her Instagram. I was scrolling through my feed one day and I see a photo of her in a bathing suit, and my first thought was, “Why am I hiding?”
I don’t have the body I think I’m supposed to have, so I don’t wear bathing suits, or shorts or skirts.
But it goes deeper than that. I’m not X, so I can’t Y.
I’m not good at public speaking, so I can’t give that talk on SEO to bloggers in Austin.
I’m not an expert, I can’t blog about that.
I’m not outgoing, so I can’t go talk to that person.
Here’s what I’ve decided to do instead.
I was invited to speak at Thrive Creative Conference in front of real live human beings, no hiding behind a laptop. I said yes, and then I stressed out about it for two whole weeks beforehand (ask my husband Floyd how fun I was to be around two days before I left). And my heart was pounding, my voice was shaking and I kept hitting the wrong button on my slides, but it was amazing and I will definitely continue to speak to in-person groups.
I saw Jenna Kutcher’s talk at Social Media Marketing World, and I felt super nervous about going up to her to thank her for being an inspiration. I almost walked away, but then I didn’t. I got in that line, I hugged her, thanked her and got a photo with her.
Instead of leaving the conference and going straight to my hotel for yoga pants and room service, I asked the girl next to me if she wanted to grab dinner.
Instead of skipping the networking party because I was tired, I went with two people I had just met that evening – and it was actually fun!
Instead of skipping the huge line of people waiting to get a photo with Amy Porterfield, I waited. And I was nervous to share with her how grateful I was to her for sharing her insecurities – but I did it.
Instead of not asking a question in Steve Chou’s session because I had to go up to a mic and ask it in front of 300 people, I did it. And I’m glad I asked because I would have implemented his strategy a little wrong!
What this means for you:
When you start to do the things that make you uncomfortable, opportunities open up. It can’t all be done alone in a vacuum, this online business thing requires other people and relationships to make it work.
All of those actions I took to get out of my comfort zone – those were little seeds that I’ve planted and who knows what they will look like when they sprout?
And conferences are a great way to meet people that have similar interests but a totally different perspective than you – and that opens up a whole world of possibility.
Yes, it’s an investment to attend a conference, but you can start locally. Find something within driving distance so you don’t need to pay for a flight and hotel. Then make it a goal in 2019 to travel to a conference and meet some people in real life, and really stretch outside of your comfort zone.
8. DON’T QUIT
The final takeaway I want to leave you with is this: Don’t quit before you’ve really gotten started.
Mark Manson told a story about how Pat Flynn almost shut down Smart Passive Income because he wasn’t getting any readers. Green Smoothie Girl shared how the first couple of years she made no money because she didn’t know how, but she kept going.
No one at this conference is an overnight success, and everyone has made mistakes and had a windy road to success.
What this means for you:
If you’re 3 months into building your website and you're still trying to make it perfect, please stop. Make sure you have a freebie set up and please just start blogging and connecting with people online. Perfection is a myth, a lie designed to keep you in your comfort zone and stop you from doing great things.
Just start, master the fundamentals and please, don’t quit. Because everyone else will quit, and when you do what others aren’t willing to do, that’s when you’ll finally find success.
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