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Ep. 162: Self Talk and Your Side Hustle

 

So you know that inner voice you have, the one that’s constantly chattering in your mind, giving you a play by play of everything you’re doing and analyzing every decision? You know, all the things that you’re constantly thinking but not saying out loud?

Whether that inner voice is negative or positive will have a huge impact on the success of your side hustle.

So what even brings this topic up today is that I have been totally obsessed with the Great British Baking Show on Netflix the past couple of weeks.

It’s something that I’ll turn on while I’m building websites or answering emails and stuff because I feel like I’m more focused when I have background noise. If it’s just quiet, oh how my inner voice wanders. I like to give it something fun to focus on while I get stuff done!

Anyway, so the premise of the show is that 12 amateur bakers complete 3 bakes each episode and they are judged on technique, look and taste, and then every week one is named Star Baker and one goes home.

I’m watching the second collection on Netflix and there’s a young girl named Ruby who is constantly berating herself, out loud. She’s not talking to anyone else, she’s just standing there, covering her face saying how terrible her recipes are, how stupid she is for messing up, how she doesn’t deserve to be there. Every time it’s her turn to be judged, she tells the judges how everything went wrong and apologizes that it’s going to be terrible.

Like, if she’s saying all of that stuff out loud to herself, I can only imagine what her inner voice is saying to her!

So today’s pep talk is a legit pep talk.

If you’ve got an inner voice inside of you telling you things like this is never going to work, I don’t have the time for this, I can’t afford it, I’m not smart enough, I can’t figure this out, you gotta spend some time fixing that because YOU have to be your biggest cheerleader!!

YOU have to be the one to believe in yourself the most. YOU have to believe deep down that you are capable, and that whatever you want to achieve is possible. No one else can believe it for you.

Yes, it helps to have other people believing in you, because if you let it, it can build up your confidence and your belief, but I want you to listen to what you say to yourself, and ask yourself, would I say this about my best friend? Would I say this out loud about my best friend to her face?

If the answer is no, then why are you saying it to yourself? If you have this problem, and it’s something that I struggle with from time to time myself when things get hard – I need you to read the book Evict The Bully in Your Head. You can get a copy of it here.

But here’s what I know – just because you’re listening to this podcast, that means that you do have a seed of belief in yourself deep down, and once you get a handle on turning your inner voice from a harsh critic into your biggest cheerleader, life gets so much easier!!


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